This may seem like such an odd thing to strive for but the best boyfriend breakups can leave the doors open for even better make-ups in the future or, at the very least, the possibility of really being friends down the road. 彼氏欲しい
So how do you go about having the best boyfriend breakups? What makes them stand out from the others and who benefits?
1) Be honest. Don't offer flimsy excuses. He has more brains than that and you have more heart. You don't need the cowardly lion to tell you that it's just wrong to chicken out by going this route. Oddly enough you'd be amazed at how many women do resort to this. Whether it's an effort to spare his feelings or really the result of not knowing why you feel the need to call things off honesty is going to be the better policy in this situation.
2) Be sincere. Don't end things with your boyfriend on a whim. Take your time and think about it. It's best to decide if this is really what you want before you dive in rather than discovering a little too late that you want him back more than anything else. It's much easier to fix a damaged relationship than it is to repair one where the other party has been dumped (by you I might add). Don't do it unless you're quite sure there's no way to make it work.
3) Be understanding. Don't expect him to take it so well. Men don't like being dumped for many reasons. First, it makes them feel powerless and vulnerable. This is not a situation that most men are comfortable with. Understand that he's going to be hurt and may lash out in an angry manner. His pride is going to be a little battered from the situation as well. The best boyfriend breakups will take all of these things into consideration and try to breakup in an environment that won't feel threatening to him but that also won't be contaminated by the memory of the breakup (you never want to do that in his home or a place that has great sentimental value for him).
Even the best boyfriend breakups are painful for you both. You don't want to hurt him and he doesn't want to be dumped. If you handle it well though you might be able to move past that in the future and actually become great friends.
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